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The Many Pictures of Love and Suffering

September 1, 2025
Reading Time: 6 minutesIt’s here it’s there! Love and Suffering: A Spiritual Guide for Helpers, Healers, and Humans gets released today. That means anyone who pre-ordered the paperback will see the book in […]

The Most Important Reason to Transform Your Suffering

August 25, 2025
Reading Time: 3 minutesWe are just one week away from the United States release of Love and Suffering: A Spiritual Guide for Helpers, Healers, and Humans. The message of the book is simple: […]

A Prayer by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

August 18, 2025
Reading Time: 3 minutesWe are just two weeks away from the release of Love and Suffering, and I’m continuing my weekly blog posts that expand upon themes in the book. Even though the […]

Kissing God’s Blemish

August 11, 2025
Reading Time: 3 minutesWith just a few weeks to go before the release of Love and Suffering, I wanted to continue exploring the theme of what it means to love this world with […]

On Richard Rohr and The Tears of Things

August 4, 2025
Reading Time: 9 minutesWithout a doubt, a huge inspiration for my upcoming book, Love and Suffering, is the American Franciscan priest and writer Richard Rohr. I am incredibly indebted to his body of […]

The Uncontrolled Spontaneity of Mystical Awakening

July 28, 2025
Reading Time: 6 minutesIn my upcoming book, Love and Suffering, I make two bold claims about mystical awakening. The first claim is that the mystical experience is universal. We are put in touch […]

What to Do When Confronted With the Suffering of the World

July 21, 2025
Reading Time: 6 minutesIf you’re reading this, you are browsing the endless expanse of the World Wide Web. Like we all do daily on our laptops, tablets, and smartphones, we see a link […]

Five Powerful Mantras to Transform Your Life

July 14, 2025
Reading Time: 6 minutesIn the introduction to my upcoming book, Love and Suffering: A Spiritual Guide for Helpers, Healers, and Humans, I tell the story of the incredible princess Miao Shan, who became […]

The Love and Suffering of Lalla

July 7, 2025
Reading Time: 4 minutesThere comes a time when researching content for a book, where the author slowly transitions from finding new information to include, and instead finds information that simply confirms what has […]

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: New Book Coming September 1st!

June 30, 2025
Reading Time: 4 minutesIt’s June 2025, and two things are now official. First, I have completed my Counseling program from California State University, which means I am now officially a Mental Health Therapist. […]

Yoga and Offerings Updates

April 4, 2024
Reading Time: 3 minutesLife is change, endlessly moving and shifting. If you try to hold on, you’ll get rope burn. Our spiritual task is to find our inner composure amidst the realization that […]

The Divine Eroticism of Mystical Christianity

January 5, 2024
Reading Time: 4 minutesI haven’t published a blog post in several months, because all of my writing has been devoted to my latest manuscript. I’m super excited about the prospect of publishing it […]

Save Yourself by Bringing Forth What Is Within

May 1, 2023
Reading Time: 4 minutesThere’s a quote I keep seeing shared around social media from my fellow spiritual seekers. While I’m used to seeing quotes from the Buddha, Eckharte Tolle, or Deepak Chopra, seeing […]

Why Is Love So Hard?

April 24, 2023
Reading Time: 5 minutesIf I have learned anything in my years on this planet, it is that you never know what is going on behind closed doors. Nowadays, it’s easy to hide behind […]

3 Phrases to Start Using in Your Relationship Right Now

March 27, 2023
Reading Time: 3 minutesLast week, I wrote the four best things to say when your partner is upset. The post is a handy guide for what to say when you want to love […]

What to Say When Your Partner Is Upset

March 20, 2023
Reading Time: 4 minutesOk, so your partner is clearly upset with you. Maybe you know why, maybe you don’t. Hopefully you love them and want to make things better. It’s important to note […]

Is Yoga “Just” Exercise?

February 13, 2023
Reading Time: 4 minutesNowadays, you can find yoga just about everywhere in every corner of the globe, including at gyms, studios, corporate offices, festivals, and more. Alongside kundalini, hatha, Iyengar and vinyasa, you […]

The Ecstatic, Divine, and Loving Poetry of the Mystics

February 6, 2023
Reading Time: 4 minutesDespite the ineffability of the mystical experience, those that have seen the Ultimate Reality often cannot stop talking about it. Indeed, the art that springs forth from those that have […]

What the Buddha Actually Taught

January 23, 2023
Reading Time: 6 minutesWhen you first get into learning about Buddhism, it can be overwhelming. There seems to be a lot to know, including the four noble truths, the eightfold path, the three […]

How to Shift From Anxious to Secure Attachment

January 16, 2023
Reading Time: 6 minutesLast year, I wrote a blog post to help everybody build a more secure attachment style. It went over the five most common strategies to feel more secure in intimate […]

Love Reveals Everything Unlike Itself

January 9, 2023
Reading Time: 5 minutesAn interest phenomenon occurs anytime we sit down and meditate to cultivate more positive qualities of mind and heart. Rather than experience those positive qualities themselves, we often feel quite […]

Compassion Is More Important than Communication

July 11, 2022
Reading Time: 3 minutesLast week, I covered some of the basics for connected communication, including listening, validation, and communication. What that post didn’t discuss was the underlying assumption that communication is important in […]

How to Actually Communicate in a Partnership

July 4, 2022
Reading Time: 5 minutesIf you ask the average person what is important in relationships, they will probably answer “communication.” You’ve likely heard the famous quip “the three keys to a successful relationship are […]

The Monk and The Three Rain Barrels

May 30, 2022
Reading Time: 5 minutesThere are a number of insightful stories in spiritual communities that involve looking at the same situation from three different perspectives. Sometimes there are three people meeting the same challenge, […]

Seeing Everything as The Mother

May 23, 2022
Reading Time: 4 minutesThere is a story I love that Ram Dass tells about his guru, Neem Karoli Baba, also known as Mahara-ji. If you know anything about the role a guru can […]

See the Horrors

May 16, 2022
Reading Time: < 1 minuteThe meat industry knows if you saw the horrors you would turn vegan. The military knows if you saw the horrors you would be a pacifist already. The loggers know […]

Loving the World: Part III

May 16, 2022
Reading Time: 5 minutes(This post is Part III of a three-part series on loving the world inspired by, and including poems from, my newest poetry collection, Pebbles, coming June 1st. See Part I and Part II here.) […]

Loving the World: Part II

May 9, 2022
Reading Time: 6 minutes(This post is Part II of a three-part series on loving the world inspired by, and including poems from, my newest poetry collection, Pebbles, coming June 1st. See Part I […]

Loving the World: Part I

May 2, 2022
Reading Time: 6 minutes(This post is Part I of a three-part series on loving the world inspired by, and including poems from, my newest poetry collection, Pebbles, coming June 1st. See Part II […]

Attention Is the Food of Love

April 25, 2022
Reading Time: 6 minutesI believe, quite simply, that love is the reason we are here on earth, and that nothing is more meaningful or powerful than the expression of love. I see every […]

5 Ways to Build a More Secure Attachment Style

April 18, 2022
Reading Time: 4 minutesPeople everywhere are learning more and more about their attachment style. What was once a relatively obscure psychological theory, has now exploded into a compendium of surveys, books, trainings, and […]

The Deepest Question You Can Ask Yourself

April 11, 2022
Reading Time: 8 minutesLast week, I covered five questions for re-igniting your sex life, because I love questions. I think one of the most important things we can do in our lives is […]

5 Questions to Re-Ignite Your Sex Life

April 4, 2022
Reading Time: 5 minutesIt happens to almost every relationship. What was once new and exciting somehow becomes dull and routine. It is perfectly natural, too, as couples transition from dancing all night and […]

The Power of Tapas

March 21, 2022
Reading Time: 7 minutesI love words. I love writing words, thinking about words, and researching the etymology of words to understand how they developed. For example, did you ever look at the word […]

The Key To Overcoming Heartbreak

March 14, 2022
Reading Time: 8 minutesI have written a lot in the past few weeks about love. I believe we are here on this planet to love, to discover the love within ourselves as we […]

The Power of Being with Suffering

March 7, 2022
Reading Time: 7 minutesWhenever I hear the very important lesson that “every human being wants to be happy, and no one wants to be in pain,” I agree… mostly. On the one hand, […]

Good News Everyone: Self-Compassionate People Have More Compassion for Others Too

February 28, 2022
Reading Time: 3 minutesOne of the best things we can do for ourselves is love ourselves. It is also one of the hardest things for us to do. Fortunately, most of the obstacles […]

Introducing: The Love Wheel

February 21, 2022
Reading Time: 6 minutesMy work in the world consists of one singular focus: love. I believe that love is the reason we are here on this planet, and our life’s purpose is to […]

What Are You Unwilling to Feel?

February 14, 2022
Reading Time: 5 minutesOne of the greatest misconceptions I have found about the practice of meditation is that it is supposed to be easy. A huge reason for this is the abundance of […]

For the Fellas: How to Get Women and Get Laid Tonight

February 7, 2022
Reading Time: 6 minutesI don’t usually write to specific genders on this blog, but I wanted to make an exception for this post. This one is for the lonely guys out there, the […]

Why Is There Suffering in the World?

January 31, 2022
Reading Time: 6 minutesWhen I begin any deep philosophical discussion with my students, I like to start with the idea that all philosophy and, indeed, most religious and spiritual traditions, are rooted in […]

Is That So? The Bliss of Awakening

January 24, 2022
Reading Time: 7 minutesSomewhere along the path of spiritual awakening, an amazing transformation begins to occur. When we wake up to the true nature of reality, we no longer see a world of […]

The Three Stages of Connection

December 6, 2021
Reading Time: 7 minutesIf I were to sum up my work in the world in one word, it would be connection. This realization came after many years of teaching and writing about love […]

Six Reasons to Schedule Your Sex

November 29, 2021
Reading Time: 3 minutesWhen I coach couples, one of the most common concerns is the lack of sexual satisfaction and frequency that happens as the relationship goes on. Oftentimes, a fiery and passionate […]

If You Want to Be Happy, Drop the Love Story

November 1, 2021
Reading Time: 7 minutesA few weeks ago, I wrote about the traits of a conscious partner. Practicing mindfulness, focusing on giving, and working on oneself are all important elements of an evolving consciousness. […]

Do You Want to Be Right or Do You Want to Be Happy?

September 13, 2021
Reading Time: 6 minutesHumans have always had an interesting relationship with being right, despite how wrong we are about most things all the time. On a societal level, we disagree about just how […]

What It Means to Be In a Conscious Relationship

August 30, 2021
Reading Time: 6 minutesOne of the most vague and misunderstood terms in the modern self-help lexicon is the term conscious. One source of this confusion lies behind the multiple meanings behind the word. […]

How to Love Without Attachment

May 31, 2021
Reading Time: 6 minutesOne of the worst things to ever happen to the Western view of love was when a group of psychologists came together and decided to refer to close relationships as […]

You Can Be a Masterpiece and a Work in Progress at the Same Time

May 24, 2021
Reading Time: 6 minutesMany years ago, at the beginning of my spiritual path, when I was exploring big concepts of God, love, and consciousness, I remember coming across the following passage:  Form is […]

The Guru Is Not Within, Something Else Is

May 17, 2021
Reading Time: 5 minutesI recently had an amazing conversation on the Learn to Love Podcast with Jennie Lee, a fellow yoga teacher and author. We talked about what it means to not just […]

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