relationships

Save Yourself by Bringing Forth What Is Within

Reading Time: 4 minutes There’s a quote I keep seeing shared around social media from my fellow spiritual seekers. While I’m used to seeing quotes from the Buddha, Eckharte Tolle, or Deepak Chopra, seeing this line came as a surprise. Mainly because the “spiritual but not religious” sector of the social media world tends to have a large aversion …

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3 Phrases to Start Using in Your Relationship Right Now

Reading Time: 3 minutes Last week, I wrote the four best things to say when your partner is upset. The post is a handy guide for what to say when you want to love your partner, but they are mad or frustrated about something. But what about if our partner isn’t upset, and you two are just hanging out? …

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What to Say When Your Partner Is Upset

Reading Time: 4 minutes Ok, so your partner is clearly upset with you. Maybe you know why, maybe you don’t. Hopefully you love them and want to make things better. It’s important to note that conflict is normal in every relationship. We’ve all been there. What separates the great relationships from the not-so-great ones is how well that conflict …

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How to Shift From Anxious to Secure Attachment

Reading Time: 6 minutes Last year, I wrote a blog post to help everybody build a more secure attachment style. It went over the five most common strategies to feel more secure in intimate relationships, including: Being with someone who is securely attached Therapy and/or coaching Meditation Find a supportive community Focus on yourself It was a popular article, …

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Compassion Is More Important than Communication

Reading Time: 3 minutes Last week, I covered some of the basics for connected communication, including listening, validation, and communication. What that post didn’t discuss was the underlying assumption that communication is important in relationships. Yes, communication is important, but how important is it, really? And what might be more important than communication in a healthy partnership? Today, I’d …

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How to Actually Communicate in a Partnership

Reading Time: 5 minutes If you ask the average person what is important in relationships, they will probably answer “communication.” You’ve likely heard the famous quip “the three keys to a successful relationship are communication, communication, and communication.” It’s not just a clever saying, however, as even professionals espouse this perspective. Couples therapists Linda and Charlie Bloom similarly explain …

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5 Ways to Build a More Secure Attachment Style

Reading Time: 4 minutes People everywhere are learning more and more about their attachment style. What was once a relatively obscure psychological theory, has now exploded into a compendium of surveys, books, trainings, and therapies. Although John Bowlby passed away over thirty years ago, he would be happy to know that his attachment theory has now entered the mainstream. …

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5 Questions to Re-Ignite Your Sex Life

Reading Time: 5 minutes It happens to almost every relationship. What was once new and exciting somehow becomes dull and routine. It is perfectly natural, too, as couples transition from dancing all night and making love until dawn to changing diapers and working hard to save money in college accounts. While a decrease in sex over time is common …

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Six Reasons to Schedule Your Sex

Reading Time: 3 minutes When I coach couples, one of the most common concerns is the lack of sexual satisfaction and frequency that happens as the relationship goes on. Oftentimes, a fiery and passionate relationship begins to feel routine and mundane, and concerned couples think this spells the end of the relationship. This natural ebb is quite common and …

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