Reading Time: 5 minutesOne of the most profound and simultaneously challenging insights on the spiritual path is that our mind is inherently dual in its thinking and there are nondual ways to be in the world. To make things even more interesting, there is the common teaching that when we do experience even the slightest hint of nondual […]
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Reading Time: 5 minutesIn the singer Amanda Palmer’s TED talk on The Art of Asking, she talks about working as a living statue and handing out flowers to passersby. She shares how impactful it was to share silent eye contact with a stranger. With her eyes she would try to say, “I see you,” and their eyes would
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Reading Time: 6 minutesLast week, I wrote about the basic idea that you cannot love someone and try to change them at the same time, because if you are trying to change someone, you aren’t really loving them; you are just loving parts of them. I also mentioned that this perspective also puts us on a path to
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Reading Time: 4 minutesImagine laying in bed with your lover/partner/spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend/FWB, and you ask them, “Honey, do you love me?” And even though you already know this person loves you and you have already heard them tell you countless times, in this moment, you want to hear it; hearing their answer will help you feel more connected and less
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Reading Time: 7 minutesLast week, I wrote about how important it is to overcome some of our mind’s natural inclinations in order to be happy, to build intimacy in our relationships, and even for our planet to survive. Even if humans have naturally evolved to act in a certain way, that does not necessarily mean we should encourage
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Reading Time: 7 minutesOne of my least favorite terms that people overuse is the word “natural.” From yogis who refuse anything that might come from a pharmacist’s office, to vegans, omnivores, and paleos alike arguing over each other about what constitutes a “natural” diet, to nonmonogamous communities advocating for more bonobo-like lifestyles, or Christians espousing homosexuality as a
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Reading Time: 6 minutesWe may think with our mind and speak with our mouths, but we truly come to understand the world with our bodies. Our lived experience is our reference point from which we measure everything else, which is why it can be challenging to wrap our minds around the eternal mystery of love. But before we
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Reading Time: 4 minutesLast week I wrote about the importance of realizing that love is a verb. By turning love into an action, we bring love into the present moment and provide a call to action to build a more loving the world. There is another very important feeling related to love that I want to talk about
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Reading Time: 7 minutesIf you haven’t checked out the Learn to Love Podcast yet, give it a listen. I’ve been researching love for years now, so I’d like to think I know a thing or two about it; yet in every conversation I have, I learn something new. Not only has each episode been incredibly informative, but with
Reading Time: 6 minutesThe right to an abortion is fundamental to gender equality. The government should make the COVID vaccine mandatory. Socialism is the enemy. Billionaires are immoral. White privilege does not exist. Guns don’t kill people, people kill people. Immigrants take jobs. Climate change is a hoax. Masks don’t work. When you read any of the above
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